I had never struggled with much in my life before I had my daughter. I was always 110-120 lbs and never had health issues besides migraines here and there. When I found out I was pregnant I weight a whopping 118 lbs! I was 19 and so excited to have a baby!
Little did I know I was in for a ride. I was seen by a specialist twice a week because my blood pressure was so high. I had preeclampsia and luckily that went away before delivery. At delivery, I weighed 208 lbs. Thankfully, I birthed my beautiful baby girl via c-section with nothing but minor complications.
Everything was supposed to be so perfect. You know movies show all the cons of having a baby, but I suffered so badly. I was miserable. I would cry not knowing why. How can I have such a precious gift, yet be so sad always. I decided to self medicate myself by trying natural remedies, and it only made things worse. I felt so ashamed because people would just tell me it’s in my head. 3 years later I decided to seek medical treatment. I started medication last year and I can not tell you guys how much happier I am. My medication helped me and I’m so glad to tell you that I’m only on 1 of the 3 medications prescribed for my PPD and I only take it as needed.
I wish I knew then what I know now.
I recently also made serious life changes. Started a new job that I love and started living life the way I wanted to. I started drinking Wowmoms protein and it has psychically and mentally helped me so much. Ladies, if you need a protein wowmoms is not only amazing in taste but amazing for you!
Mamas. If you ever need a person to reach out to when those mom moments are just uncontrollable, I am always here. Don’t ever let anyone belittle you and tell you how you’re feeling isn’t right. If you need to seek medical treatment, seek it. We are only human. We can only do so much. Let’s fight postpartum! Together we can!
Left picture is November 2016 right picture was April 2017. Do you see what a little protein and a lot of happiness can do to someone?!
I still have a long road ahead of me, but I ain’t stopping!
I could swear I was just mad dogging my positive pregnancy test thinking how the f am I going to do this? Then…. BAM! My kid is almost 4!
I’m a total frugal mom so, I was thinking what free things we can do for her birthday. Several places offer freebies for birthdays and I thought I’d share those with you!
Barnes and Noble has a kids club! The kiddos get a free cupcake from the café for their birthday. Sign your kids up here!! Kids Club Link
Toys R Us also has Geoffrey’s Birthday club. Every year club members receive
- Birthday Card & Gift from Geoffrey
- Check the mail! Your child will get a special birthday card and a gift from Geoffrey every year, until he or she turns 10!
- Birthday Phone Call from Geoffrey
- Extra-Special In-Store Recognition
- Bring your birthday child into the store to receive a birthday crown, Geoffrey balloon and a personalized announcement broadcast to the entire store!
Sign up for birthday club here
Chuck E Cheese I believe offers free tokens, but always check with your location first as they seem to vary.
California Pizza Kitchen offers a free kid’s meal for kids 12 and under. Sign up for CPK kids club here
As I find more places I will update the list!
Here are some pictures from my daughter’s past birthdays! They grow so quick!
I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I delivered. I had just started a new job and my benefits were kicking in. 5 months after starting my job, I was telling my boss I was 4 months pregnant. It was not easy. I felt horrible. Less than a year employed with this company and I was going to start taking maternity leave. I worked up until I was 38 weeks pregnant, and delivered at 39 weeks 1 day. I had a planned C-section so I knew then I had that extra time off. 14 weeks at home was not long enough at all. Between the pain of throbbing nipples, to dealing with your stomach being split open …. I was miserable. So miserable I wasn’t enjoying my time at home like I should have and I regret every moment of it. My daughter was 3.5 months old when I went back to work, and it was so sad. I cried in my car going to work. I cried during my breaks in my car. I cried thinking about her. I cried pumping milk for her.
I missed out on SO much.
After returning to work mid November I realized I just couldn’t do it. I ended up quitting that job early December.
Not working was never an option to me. I started a job where I found leaving my kid wasn’t so hard anymore knowing I had support where I was at. Also, realized how amazing her daycare is helped ease some of the pain of leaving her.
We miss so much as working moms. First steps, first words, SO many firsts. It sucks.
If I can give two tips of advice those would be:
- Find the best care for your kid (that’s a given), but find somewhere that will fill the gaps while we are away. Find someone who will keep you sane, while keeping your kiddo in place. Find somewhere that loves your kid as much as their own. Find someone who understands. Understands your schedule, understands your needs, understands that you need them more than just to watch your kid. They aren’t just there to watch your kid, but to help raise them as well.
- Your job. Your job plays such a big role on being a working Mama. I am so thankful I am with a company that’s understands myself, and my kid come first. I’m thankful I have a job where I can attend to my daughter if needed to be.
With that being said… being gone for 40+ hours a week makes it SO much easier when you have support at daycare and work.
Remember your reasoning for working. It makes coming home to your little so much more special. For all my mamas busting their asses off…YOU got this. WE got this. Whether you work at home, you’re a stay at home mom, work full-time or part-time. We are still sacrificing so much doing so. We got this!!