I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I delivered. I had just started a new job and my benefits were kicking in. 5 months after starting my job, I was telling my boss I was 4 months pregnant. It was not easy. I felt horrible. Less than a year employed with this company and I was going to start taking maternity leave. I worked up until I was 38 weeks pregnant, and delivered at 39 weeks 1 day. I had a planned C-section so I knew then I had that extra time off. 14 weeks at home was not long enough at all. Between the pain of throbbing nipples, to dealing with your stomach being split open …. I was miserable. So miserable I wasn’t enjoying my time at home like I should have and I regret every moment of it. My daughter was 3.5 months old when I went back to work, and it was so sad. I cried in my car going to work. I cried during my breaks in my car. I cried thinking about her. I cried pumping milk for her.
I missed out on SO much.
After returning to work mid November I realized I just couldn’t do it. I ended up quitting that job early December.
Not working was never an option to me. I started a job where I found leaving my kid wasn’t so hard anymore knowing I had support where I was at. Also, realized how amazing her daycare is helped ease some of the pain of leaving her.
We miss so much as working moms. First steps, first words, SO many firsts. It sucks.
If I can give two tips of advice those would be:
- Find the best care for your kid (that’s a given), but find somewhere that will fill the gaps while we are away. Find someone who will keep you sane, while keeping your kiddo in place. Find somewhere that loves your kid as much as their own. Find someone who understands. Understands your schedule, understands your needs, understands that you need them more than just to watch your kid. They aren’t just there to watch your kid, but to help raise them as well.
- Your job. Your job plays such a big role on being a working Mama. I am so thankful I am with a company that’s understands myself, and my kid come first. I’m thankful I have a job where I can attend to my daughter if needed to be.
With that being said… being gone for 40+ hours a week makes it SO much easier when you have support at daycare and work.
Remember your reasoning for working. It makes coming home to your little so much more special. For all my mamas busting their asses off…YOU got this. WE got this. Whether you work at home, you’re a stay at home mom, work full-time or part-time. We are still sacrificing so much doing so. We got this!!